Though it may be hard to admit, everyone needs help sometimes. This is especially true when you are in the midst of a difficult situation and cannot see a way out. Often, the hardest part of therapy is making that initial contact and getting started. Sometimes, it takes a leap of faith to reach out to someone for help, especially if that person is a stranger to you.
A sense of comfort and safety are paramount in therapy. Gaining trust is something that cannot be rushed. It can only be built at the rate people are comfortable with. My approach is built on a strong foundation of deep respect, compassion, understanding, and empathy for people. Without this foundation, therapeutic work will not be successful. My focus is on assisting people in finding and developing their strengths to help them to deal with their issues, including addressing how these issues may be holding them back from the life they wish to live. I believe strongly that the best therapeutic relationship is an equal partnership between the client(s) and myself; that we need to work cooperatively to establish goals and facilitate the changes necessary in achieving those goals. My therapeutic framework strongly considers the roles that others play or have played in our lives. None of us exists in isolation; we all impact and are impacted by those around us, especially our families. Often, we are not even aware of this.
To me, the process of therapy is analogous to the following:
I walked down a street that was very familiar to me. Before I even knew it, I had fallen into a deep hole - the same deep hole I've fallen into many times. I had no idea how to get out. Luckily, someone saw me fall in and pulled me out.
The next day, I walked down the street again. Before I even knew it, I had fallen into the same deep hole. This time, I tried to get out, but couldn't, so someone pulled me out again.
The next day, I walked down the street again. Before I even knew it, I fell in the same deep hole again. It was a lot of work, and I tried really hard, and I was able to get myself out.
The next day, I walked down the street again. This time, I knew the hole was coming up, so I stepped around it.
The next day, I walked down a new street.
If you're looking for extra support and guidance through a challenging situation or you're just ready to move in a new direction in your life, I would be happy to assist you in working towards achieving your goals.